Dating Q & A # 4
Do you believe in the idea of having a “soul mate”?
GPC
By “soul mate”, it is taken that we are referring to a specific person that God had providentially created and prepared for a specific other, in that each of them would only be able to experience God’s absolute best in married life with one another. This is also what is commonly referred to as “God’s Perfect Choice” or “G.P.C.”. This notion is popularly espoused by Joshua Harris’ book, “Boy Meets Girl”.
Does God’s plan include only one particular perfect mate for everyone? That “One True Love”?
In my heart, I so want to believe the romantic answer. “Before I was born, God created [my wife] Joyce just for me. We met. I courted. She loved me too. We married. Now we’re living our happily ever after.” It just sounds wonderful.
But is this really the way that God works? Honestly, I’m not sure. But I do admit, it could very well be; At least to a certain extent. We’ll know in full when Jesus reveals all in heaven (1 Cor. 13:12), to be sure!
BETTER
However, the purpose of this post is for my humble contention that God works in an even more powerful, more glorious way than “GPC” / “soul mate”. Let me explain:
The Bible says that God is sovereign; Meaning, He rules over all with boundless authority and power (1 Chr. 29:10-12; Ps. 103:19). He knows the number of our days (Ps. 39:4) as well as the things that happen in each of them (Ps.139:16). This means that the Lord knows with whom we will have been married, if we would indeed have gone on to marry at all!
Yet the Bible appears to be silent if indeed God has a preferred choice for every one that He would have desired for him/her to eventually find (or bump into) and end up marrying. “Fate” just sounds so romantic.
But then again, wouldn’t it be just completely good of Him if He just let us decide for ourselves with whom we’d want to go to God’s best with?
Personally, I think that this is exactly what He lets us do!
FREE WILL
Think about this. There’s no better way to give glory to God than to use the Free Will that He has given us; That which we can use either to live for Him or to ignore Him. In the same way, wouldn’t it be just an awesome display of His goodness, power and sovereignty if our Free Will had a major role in our experiencing His absolute best for us in marriage? (cf. Dt. 30:19-20 TNIV, Rom. 8:6-7, English Standard Version)
I believe that for God to be most glorified [in people’s lives], Free Will is a necessary component, with people’s happiness (i.e. living God’s best) the amazingly realistic result (Jn. 10:10b).
UNDUE PRESSURE
Do you really think God will put the pressure of tracking down that one specific individual, on you? And if you miss the right one, then too bad – you can only choose a wrong one now. And if you end up marrying wrongly, you can effectively relegate a multitude of people to marriages and lives of mediocrity. No wonder many relationships today are in such a tailspin.
Wow. What if I miss God’s moment?
Missing bumping into her at the grocery because of an additional 30 seconds of deciding between the usual Gillette Mach-3 Turbo triple blade razor or the new Schick Quattro? Or missing being immediately behind Mr. Right at the counter because of an extra minute of deciding between Reduced Fat Chips Ahoy and Chewy Chips Ahoy? What now? You’ll be doomed to shave all your life to look your most attractive just for Ms. Wrong! Or you’ll be destined to getting fat eating Chips Ahoy with Mr. Wrong! And it can get worse. You can even end up doing those all alone!
I agree that fear would be appropriate at this juncture. Would I make a mistake and miss an opportunity that could guarantee my future happiness in marriage?
Missing out on a relationship with her because she’s already just agreed to be wooed by someone else, all because you put off asking her out for just one more day to gather some more courage. Could God be frowning in heaven saying, “What have you done?!? I had EVERYTHING set up for you, and YOU BLEW IT!!”? Now be miserable all your life?
Isn’t it a relief that God is more powerful, more GOOD than that?
Just as He is always more involved in our lives than we can ever know (Rom. 8:28), I believe that He wants us more involved in ending up in married bliss than we realize!
Many faithful Christians wholeheartedly believe that no matter what they do or don’t do, God will bring them mates. That somehow, they’ll just be “drawn together”. That’s kind of like saying “I don’t have to work. Even if I just stay home, watch TV and surf the net, God will provide for me, because I am a Christian.”
My thoughts exactly. It’s silly.
Believing in “GPC” presents the very real scenario of people not putting any effort into finding a potential spouse, or at least putting themselves in a position to do so. Many don’t go to places where other believers might be, let alone get involved in their activities. They don’t try to improve their relational skills, some don’t even take care about their appearance! They just sit around waiting… hoping… trusting God for a mate but never taking a single step in that direction. Such a discord can’t happen (Jas. 2:17). It’s irresponsible, immature, and downright childish.
MY ADVICE?
Men, be in faith. Read your bible, grow up, get a job (preferably one you cannot do in just house clothes), be diligent, be responsible, then find a wife. Find. Proactive. I personally think that a wife is the BEST “good thing” you can ever hope to find.
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD. (Prov. 18:22, ESV)
Ladies, be in faith. And get involved. I’ve heard it before, “I just can’t find someone I’m interested in here in church.” “Well, may I know how many Christian guys do you actually know and hang out with?” “Well, my closest friends. Let’s see.. hmm.. Four…?” Exclusive cliques can easily be unhealthy. My advice? Get in the mix. Make friends. As you wait on God, choose to grow, pray, worship, serve, prepare, learn (life skills), budget, go disciple (Mt. 28:18). Ruth was providentially blessed with a godly husband in Boaz, but I believe that had a whole lot to do with her being in the field working the harvest (Ruth 2:2 – 4:13). Go figure.
DANGER
If you believe in “GPC” and end up marrying someone, there’s something that will inevitably happen that will cause you to doubt. When you and your spouse get into a serious fight (and you will); When things don’t turn out exactly the way you expected them to (and they won’t, more often than not), there’ll be a tendency to think in your heart “Maybe he/she isn’t my soul mate after all!” Now that is dangerous. Insidious, but a termite that will effectively ruin marriages nonetheless.
Let me now present my CONCLUSION.
This, in the context of you living the Christian life, actively looking to grow to maturity in your relationship with Jesus, and looking to be in the middle of what He is up to in and through His Church:
There will be several potential spouses that will be presented you, with any one of whom you could truly go all the way to God’s best in marriage.
Look at it this way, Put yourself in the right position, both in relation to Jesus and in community (Jn. 15:4), God presents qualified candidates, and YOU get to choose!
Can it possibly get better than that!?
But here’s the thing. Whoever you end up marrying, that’s the ONE. Call each other your “GPC” or “soul mate” or whatever you like, but for all intents and purposes, you’re each other’s ONE. Then proceed on going to God’s best in marriage with each other.
While this may crush some romantic dreams, this should also remove some of undue pressure, especially in that we can act on our human responsibility to get involved. It should also afford us relief that if we miss an opportunity for a relationship, we can rest in the fact that God is BIG on relationships, and He deeply values marriage. God can provide another with whom you can still go to a holy and awesome marriage.
He’s that big.
Choose to move forward, walk the Christian life and trust Him. Assume the posture of humility in asking wisdom (Jas. 1:5), and decide as the Lord directs (Isa.30:21).
God gets the glory when you experience His best [i.e. in marriage], especially when it is a result of a series of guided decisions.
(For more on this topic, read Craig Groeschel’s book “Going All The Way”. It must also be said that Joshua Harris’ “Boy Meets Girl” remains as one of the more helpful books on this subject.)
Next entry: Dating Q & A # 5
How can I ensure that the man who is courting me (or my boyfriend) will continue to pursue me?
Posted by Francis on 0, August 25, 2009 at 10:23 am
That’s right. This is what I believe in. There is no such thing is “the one” that God created for us, but like you said he knows who we will end up with. I thank God for the freedom he gave me to choose who ever I want to end up with (but that doesn’t mean I can abuse the freedom by hooking up with everyone).
Posted by johndelrosario on 0, August 28, 2009 at 1:57 pm
Thanks for your comment, Francis!
I agree. With Free Will comes the choice to abuse it as well. It’s called sin. You’re a man of faith, bro. God blesses diligence that comes as a result of our faith. Keep working it!
Posted by Madz Mendoza on 0, August 26, 2009 at 3:51 am
Wow! Galing! This is so true! Thanks, John! Kix has been telling the same to me. hehehe I have shared this with my girlfriends
Posted by johndelrosario on 0, August 28, 2009 at 1:47 pm
Thanks, Madz! Your Kix is as full of faith and decisive as they come. (As I contend men of faith should be!) You’d be right to feel blessed in being married to him.
And thanks for sharing!
Posted by ssshhh on 0, August 27, 2009 at 3:34 pm
A great read especially to those who are in the “seeking stage” in thier lives.
Good thing that God gives us that freedom to choose who we are going to be and end up with.
More great blogs John =)
Posted by johndelrosario on 0, August 28, 2009 at 1:50 pm
Thank you so much for your very encouraging comment.
It’s called “Free Will”, and I stand for it. And I love it. What a loving God we have.
Posted by david chan on 0, August 28, 2009 at 10:39 am
hey there bro
long time na ah…
hehehehehe… we actually have a difference in opinion regarding this. i don’t believe kase in the free will thing that most churches today advocate. i DO believe in the concept of the soul mate. there’s just one difference… God does not leave us with the responsibility to find that person, and God does not leave us doomed if we “miss” that “moment” that you mentioned. rather, God is sovereign. nothing happens that is not of His sovereign will. and everything that happens is exactly how God has ordained. that is sovereignty. romans 8:28 is something that we can hold on to. when fights and arguments come in the marriage, the tendency of a sovereign grace believer will not be to question whether or not he is with his soulmate. rather, he will be grateful that his “gpc” is such a wonderful partner for sanctifying him all the more.
adam never looked for eve. God brought them together. proverbs says “he who finds a wife”. that is not a proactive word. rather, it was a passive word. it’s like walking along the shore, not intentionally looking for anything, just appreciating the sun and the breeze and the waves. then, the light hits something shiny. so the man gets curious and walks closer to that glitter a few feet away. he picks it up and examines it: a pearl in his hand, most beautiful and precious. and then, he says to himself “how fortunate of me to have found something so precious!” was he looking for a pearl intentionally? nope. he was appreciating the creator of all things, and God gave Him “something good” in particular in response to his worship.
any person who truly does believe in sovereign grace doesn’t have that “undue pressure” bro. rather, there’s “due assurance”
if in believing in the GPC concept one feels undue pressure, that’s because there’s a misunderstanding of grace. grace would not be grace if it were not of a sovereign kind. 
Posted by johndelrosario on 0, August 28, 2009 at 1:19 pm
Hey David! Yeah, it’s been quite a while. Hope all’s well with you.
Thanks for visiting and commenting.
I believe the word (matsa’) actually goes either way, proactive or passive; So the way I understand it, we’re given the liberty of deciding which way to take it, much like many things. As for me, my humble position is the most forthright I can assume to embrace God’s Sovereignty and man’s responsibility. So I espouse free will. 
But your take is very insightful. As a lot of people who weren’t looking did end up married, you may actually appeal to more people! Hehe But I’m staying where I am on this. Thanks again, man. Hope your own “good thing” works nicely for you! Talk soon, bro.
Looking for other interesting comments out there.. What’s your take?
Posted by david chan on 0, August 28, 2009 at 10:42 am
oh yeah, here’s something on the same topic lang also bro if you’re interested
http://davidabc13.multiply.com/journal/item/30/Gospel-Based_Courtship
Posted by johndelrosario on 0, August 28, 2009 at 2:48 pm
Thanks, man. You write your thoughts well. I do agree and similarly stress that this isn’t – by any means – a way to explain a biblical doctrine on the topic (in that it’ll affect one’s salvation); So it is up for interpretation and subsequent application.
I’m making this available to everyone as well for their own sober judgment on how they want to “find a wife”, if at all. Hehe
Posted by david chan on 0, August 29, 2009 at 8:25 am
well, we do agree that finding a wife is such a good and great thing! hehehehehe…
we’re really gonna have to talk soon bro! nyahahahahaha!!!! i’ve got some great news coming up soon! hohoho!!! you still have the same number diba?
Posted by johndelrosario on 0, September 2, 2009 at 9:47 am
Finding a wife is wonderful indeed.
Yeah, we need to catch up. Looking forward to ze great news! Clue ba yung “hohoho”? Hmmm… This Christmas season? Good for you, brother! Yes, same number still.
Posted by mhonasan on 0, August 29, 2009 at 2:31 pm
hey jeyps, this is interesting. i also believe that finding is proactive : isaac/rebekah, ruth/boaz, etc. and I appreciate your point on not over-spiritualizing, God is also the God of the natural:) i agree with all your points, but this one:
“There will be several potential spouses that will be presented you, with any one of whom you could truly go all the way to God’s best in marriage.”
it seems to condradict this “…in the context of you living the Christian life, actively looking to grow to maturity in your relationship with Jesus, and looking to be in the “middle” of what He is up to in and through His Church”
What i think is that As you walk with God, listen to him, and stay in the center of his will …you can simply go out there a Choose a wife, and if she CHOOSES you back , then go for it … and if she’s not the one, i believe God will let you know beforehand. Basta if you do end up marrying her, then IS the ONE.
The bible is completely silent about having many people to choose from (with any of them being equally suitable for you) in an
ideal marriage. The only examples you’ll find are from those who actually married many (and obviously not a very good example).
On a personal level, when i was single, i wasn’t waiting for anybody specific…and when Martin chose me and i chose him back,I really couldn’t think of anybody else who would’ve been right! I know that God’s hand was orchestrating it
“God’s will is absolute. It’s a bit of a mystery, but somehow, we get to exercise our own will in the middle of it.”
Barbie
Posted by johndelrosario on 0, September 2, 2009 at 9:40 am
Hi Barbie. Thanks for visiting and commenting!
Having read what you have to say made wonder if I was able to make my contention/conclusion sufficiently clear. As I agree with everything you said, I best try to expound a bit more what I’ve tried to communicate.
First, the post unapologizingly embraces Free Will, and I thank you for pointing that the woman has the exact same Free Will that the man does! And that if she doesn’t assent to his pursuing her, they aren’t going anywhere [together], let alone to a happy married life.
As my Scripture reference (Prov. 18:22) urges the man to find a wife, my eagerness to encourage men to man-up looks to have caused the oversight to cover both bases adequately. But yes, you’re absolutely right. Fact of the matter is that she has the right to accept or reject (which he must respect); She has the final word (between her and the man, that is, as God theologically does in His foreknowledge; Acts 2:23; 1 Pe 1:2).
Second, my conclusion states “several potential spouses”. The context is simply that since I have contended that God is powerful enough to allow us to have the say on whom we’ll end up with (the man pursuing and the woman choosing back), everyone will have the opportunity to live out God’s best in marriage with whomever they chose to get married to. I feel an example is necessary:
Let’s say “Girlie” gets pursued by “Boy”. But as she feels she isn’t ready yet, she politely declines him. “Boy” eventually ends up marrying someone else. It takes a while before someone woos her again, making her wonder if she made the wrong decision in turning Boy down, and if she had missed God’s absolute best in marriage. But not long, “Manny” pursues “Girlie” and they get married.
The question that’s begging to be asked is “With whom will she have gone on to God’s absolute best in marriage?” I believe that this question is inappropriate.
I contend that she may have gone on to God’s absolute best in marriage with Boy if she had chosen to. I view God to be much bigger than what we perceive to be mistakes even, and is able to bring someone else into a person’s life with whom he/she is just as able to experience God’s absolute best in marriage.
My opinion is that going to God’s best is hinged on what you do within the marriage (i.e. obedience, faithfulness), and not at all on “with whom”.
Do I believe this to be true even of “bad” marriages on the mend once under the lordship of Jesus? Though this may be arguable, I would still say “Absolutely!” Jesus is not called “Redeemer” for nothing! It’s how soon we let His power in effect in our lives.
Theoretically, Girlie could even have had many more “missed” opportunities in between Boy and Manny, thus the clause “several potential spouses”. But yes, just one spouse to end up with and be faithful to. To be romantic about it, though people aren’t perfect, people can be “perfect for each other”, in that they can complement one another perfectly (suitably, Gen. 2:18) for their joy and God’s glory.
What a wonderful mystery God is. And considering His sovereignty and man’s responsibility, what a GOOD God! Though now we know and see in part, one Day we will know and see in full (1 Cor 13:12).
Whew. Hope that’s clear.
Posted by mhonasan on 0, September 2, 2009 at 10:36 pm
Hey Jeyps,
Martin here.
Actually I was the one who stumbled upon your blog. Pinakita ko lang kay Barbie and asked her to answer it. Anyway here are my thoughts, sorry medjo kalat at mahaba:
Jeyps: “First, the post unapologizingly embraces Free Will, and I thank you for pointing that the woman has the exact same Free Will that the man does! And that if she doesn’t assent to his pursuing her, they aren’t going anywhere [together], let alone to a happy married life.”
-No. This is not the point Barb was trying to make from this statement,
“you can simply go out there and Choose a wife, and if she CHOOSES you back, then go for it … and if she’s not the one, i believe God will let you know beforehand. Basta if you do end up marrying her, then [SHE] IS the ONE.”
The simple point being made here was, kung hindi ka pumasa or hindi siya pumasa sayo or whatever, then hindi. Hindi issue yung women’s rights dito.
Jeyps: “Second, my conclusion states “several potential spouses”. The context is simply that since I have contended that God is powerful enough to allow us to have the say on whom we’ll end up with (the man pursuing and the woman choosing back), everyone will have the opportunity to live out God’s best in marriage with whomever they chose to get married to.”
This talks about free will. You remember how we always talk about God giving us the Free will to choose and love Him? Giving us this free will doesn’t mean he doesn’t have a perfect will? His perfect will is that we choose him. He actually wants our free will to agree with His perfect will.
I believe the same thing about marriage, and any other important decision we make.
Also, God is even more glorified when, despite our stupidity, arrogance, and the myopia that causes us to grope in the dark, He redeems us, and relieves us of the burden of having to run our own lives, independent of His good, pleasing, and perfect will. The pressure is immense, and the repercussions are dangerous if we are left to choose a suitable mate out of billions and billions of men and women, apart from His leading. There are so many spiritual afflictions that plague our men, jeyps. Isa na dun yung sinabi mo, when men are passive (lazy, scared?) and hyper-spiritual, nag-hihintay nalang ng biyaya to land on their laps. Another is the opposite, when Christians, left with only their free will, unsure of themselves, end up testing many waters. I believe that all followers of Jesus will have the opportunity to live out God’s best because we are His sheep and we hear his voice.
Jeyps: “(boy asks girlie, girlie turns him down, boy marries someone else, girlie marries manny)
The question that’s begging to be asked is “With whom will she have gone on to God’s absolute best in marriage?” I believe that this question is inappropriate.”
-I agree, this question is inappropriate because the answer is obvious — “Manny.” Hindi pumasa si “Boy,” therefore hindi “candidate” o “God’s will.” God uprooted Boy’s desires, because He uproots what He did not plant.
Jeyps: “I contend that she may have gone on to God’s absolute best in marriage with Boy if she had chosen to.”
-Yung point namin, pag pinili si Boy, eh di hindi si Manny, and vice versa. Do you understand where we’re coming from, bro? God’s absolute best includes the person He chooses (this is actually good for us, because he is a good God who knows the desries of our hearts.) Check this out:
Isaac sends his servant to find him a wife…
12 Then he(servant) prayed, “O LORD, God of my master Abraham, give me success today, and show kindness to my master Abraham. 13 See, I am standing beside this spring, and the daughters of the townspeople are coming out to draw water. 14 May it be that when I say to a girl, ‘Please let down your jar that I may have a drink,’ and she says, ‘Drink, and I’ll water your camels too’-let her be THE ONE YOU HAVE CHOSEN for your servant Isaac.
By this I will know that you have shown kindness to my master.”
Maraming girls dun, pero isa lang pinili ni God para sa kanya. Hindi inuwi nung servant lahat ng babae dun tapos pinapili nalang si Isaac ng isa. The best choice is the only choice, God’s choice.
Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife finds what is good
and receives favor from the Lord.
“find”- matsa’:
to discover, uncover, find, find out, i.e., learn the location of an object (Ge 26:19); find out, learn, gain or learn information not previously known.
I believe this is a proactive word, too. And based on the story above could definitely be interpreted as a Surprise that God has been keeping for us to Discover.
This was fun Jeyps. Hi to Joyce. Kita kits.
Posted by johndelrosario on 0, September 3, 2009 at 4:00 pm
Hey Martin! Really good to hear from you! This topic will always merit many discussions, and it appears that the same is happening to this one now. Your comment reminds me why I really delight in conversations with you, which were on the road most of the time.
Anyways, just like with your wife’s comments, it does appear that we are coming from the same place as well, more or less. (If you’d remember,) This goes back to our past conversations on Free Will and God’s Sovereign Will, and His desire for us to choose our way from His Permissive Will to His Perfect Will. I am again in that place of hoping that I had sufficiently laid down my being in agreement with this in my post.
Allow me a repost of a portion in the original entry in which I hoped to imply that no matter whatever happens and whatever we decide with our Free Will, at the end of it all, God knows all and would have imprinted His goodness regardless of man’s sinfulness:
“The Bible says that God is sovereign; Meaning, He rules over all with boundless authority and power (1 Chr. 29:10-12; Ps. 103:19). He knows the number of our days (Ps. 39:4) as well as the things that happen in each of them (Ps.139:16). This means that the Lord knows with whom we will have been married, if we would indeed have gone on to marry at all!”
With that [assumingly] settled, I segued into the practical task at hand (i.e. man’s responsibility) of actually discovering what the Lord already knows (but we don’t), as He had pre-ordained. The Forrest Gump “both happening at the same time” kind of a deal, if you will. Discovering (which involves choosing! how amazing is that?) something that the mind of God had already known from the start. Hopefully my premise had been clear as well that “[to] be in faith” speaks of a posture of humility we must assume before the Lord to say that we need His Spirit’s guidance as we go about finding the perfect [for us] spouse.
And lastly, going back to the example, yes, I agree on all points. If she picked Boy, then Boy it is, Manny irrelevant. God’s Sovereign mate? The one she chose: Boy. On the other hand, if she looked over Boy and ended up with Manny, then plainly and simply Boy isn’t the one, Manny is. God’s Sovereign mate? Again, the one she chose: Manny.
In the hope of achieving the proper healthy perspective [of a finite-minded human being] and to be as practical as possible, I contended that a person needn’t be burdened of being pressured into a decision because “this might be the one and I could miss it”. If a godly gentleman pursues a lady, but for one reason or another (i.e. it’s irrelevant) she declines him [i.e. the potential mate], she can rest assured that the Lord will be big enough to lead another [i.e. another potential mate] with which she can experience God’s best. I realize “potential” may be the culprit word in this discussion, because when we go back to God’s Sovereign perspective, it had been him all along. It just so happened that He was powerful and allowed it to come about by our decisions, again for our joy and His glory.
So I wound it up by saying “Whoever you end up marrying [i.e. choosing], that’s the ONE”. But considering that God is Sovereign and has perfect foreknowledge, then yes, God chose them for each other to enjoy His very best in marriage.
Hope to see you again sometime soon, Marts! Always a treat talking with you. Hi to Barbie.
Posted by mhonasan on 0, September 2, 2009 at 10:45 pm
Oh and check this out, too. It’s another interesting take on the topic. God bless you.
http://www.gotquestions.org/soul-mates.html
Posted by mhonasan on 0, September 3, 2009 at 2:43 am
Pahabol.
In the old testament, I don’t think God rejoiced in the fact that His people went through Chemosh, Ashtoreh, Baal, etc., before a remnant finally chose Him. In the same way, as Christians made in His image, this same longing is something that we desire, as well. I believe that exclusivity in the wait, pursuit, not just the relationship, are something that all Christians would truly appreciate. It’s hard to pull off. We need Grace. It’s available, so it’s possible.
During our courtship I apologized to Barbie for some stuff in the past that she had already known about. I know I didn’t have to do it. (I personally wouldn’t recommend it.) And she never required it from me. It’s just something I felt that I personally had to address. It was painful for her because, unlike me, she single-mindedly waited for that one person, even though she was constantly surrounded by men, mostly good men, but normal men, with intentions, and assumptions. I didn’t give Barb some cop-out excuse like, “some of these women would’ve chosen me, but I chose you.” ha ha. I know. Duwag! I decided to man-up. I merely apologized and said sorry for all my stupid decisions. When I finally proposed to her, and she said, “yes,” I believe God was glorified. I thank God that despite my stupidity “I found” the one that He specifically made for me.
Malapit na kami mag four years, bro. My marriage is awesome! We have a baby girl who has a little bit of me and a little bit of her mommy in her. Hindi naman kami immune to arguments and fights ni Barb — we are but flawed peeps. ha ha. But I am also immensely secure of the fact that my marriage is a preordained, “acts17: 26”-determined, kind of relationship,” It’s very hard to think of “hypothetical-relational-what-if’s” for us because I see so much of God’s fine-tuned, purposeful, hand in my life with Barbie and Stina.
If Girlie married Manny, and Girlie is still wondering if she made the wrong decision in turning Boy down, and if she had missed God’s absolute best in marriage. Then Girlie should talk to Joyce or Shirley so they can help address her unforgiveness or maybe even bitterness, and dismiss the “hypothetical-relational-what-if’s” lies that are oppressing her. Or Manny could take Girlie out to more dates.
ha ha ha. Sorry Jeyps. I was bored. Just taking a break from work. I’m one of those guys with house clothes for office clothes. But God is good. He’s been blessing the work of my hands as if I’m wearing a necktie. Love you, man! God bless!
Posted by johndelrosario on 0, September 3, 2009 at 4:46 pm
Refreshing insights as usual, Martin! I’ll be glad to strike a conversation on anything with you anytime. Ha haa! Your awesome marriage is clear for all to see! I know how it’s like too! Don’t you find it amazing that it’s still awesome despite of us [men] and our many faults? Thank You, Lord!
And! You’re as talented and diligent as they come, man. It’s not a wonder to me at all why the Lord’s blessing you and doing amazing things through you. Love you, brother! God bless you indeed!