going all the way

 

“Can he/she be the one?”

A universal longing that most everyone has.  A deep-seated desire for covenant relationship with another person, much like that we have for God (Ecc. 3:11).  So a perfectly valid question.  Tho one that can be only be answered properly when considering the plans of Him who put this inside of us in the first place.

To discuss the topic of relationships among singles, we held a 2-day talk for the Singles of Victory Alabang called “Going All The Way: Preparing for a Marriage that goes the Distance”.  (Note: Content was not based on Craig Groeschel’s book of the same title, though the title was adapted.)

Though there had been much clamor for material (i.e. audio, print) related to the event, we decided for the better option, which is to blog about it.  This way we’ll get to cover more ground over a period of time, which is a welcome alternative to speaking at an event working to a time limit (esp. when there’s too many things that everyone wants to say and ask about).

So let’s get started.

 

Why “Going All The Way”?

Subtly put, this is a phrase that people would use to refer to the extremes of sexual activity, usually in the context of being done outside the commitment of marriage (i.e. fornication).  Very self-serving, very destructive, very here-and-now as well.

However, if we look at what the bible says about God’s original plans for human relationships, it’ll be for covenant relationships that will go the distance (Mt. 19:4-5).  How does this look like?

-       Men that actually take on the duties and responsibilities of a husband: loving, serving, providing for financially, providing godly leadership for his wife in every arena of life (Eph. 5:23, 25-27)

-       Women who will submit to the husband’s godly leadership (Eph. 5:22), acknowledging that submission is the BEST gift that she can give as a response to selfless servant leadership

-       Women who complement (work hand-in-hand with) her husband in function (Gen. 2:18, Eph. 5:21), in that a married Christian couple actually completes each other.

-       Women who will validate their husband’s leadership to a watching world, being the husband’s crown (Prov. 12:4)

-       Fathers who will father their children (“father” being really more a verb than a noun) (Eph. 6:4)

 

Every Christian couple [particularly those who came to know the Lord already as a couple] needs to work towards this, purposefully amending their ways.  And for this, Jesus is able.  He’s not called “Redeemer” for nothing.

But having said these, what an opportunity single people have to do things right from the start.  Because a marriage that goes all the way is not something that we just wish for (while all while handling relationships any way we please).  It is primarily  something to believe and trust God for; also something to be purposefully prepared for; most importantly something to be reaped in its time (Ecc. 3:11a).

 

 

And for a single person, the season to SOW is NOW.  And the fertile field to sow in is the relationships that we have and will be making (1 Tim 5:1-2).  Everything we will be covering will be for the purpose of this sowing.

 

 

 

There have been questions that have been brought up at “Going All The Way” that we had not answered due to event time constraints.  So we’ll go through these one at a time as a means to highlight what the event sought to communicate.

Stay tuned.  Be patient…  (you can take that as lesson # 1)

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